It's interesting; funerals and celebrations-of-life have much in common, yet they often appear very different. Each is a ceremony; a gathering of people who share a common loss. It's just that one is more rooted in tradition, while the other is the result of recent changes in social values. But both serve to do three things:
Ask attendees to bring along a story or memory of your loved one. Guests comfort levels will vary – you may want to provide time for some to publicly share their memory, but also note cards for those who prefer to write their memory privately.
Enjoy songs, bands or the genre of music that were favourites. Music is an integral part of life for many people, and a celebration of life service is the perfect event in which to showcase the meaningful music of your loved one's life.
If planning for snacks or refreshments, plan to enjoy your loved one’s favourite dishes or treats. Perhaps they even had a recipe that they were known for? This will allow the attendees to feel a sense of connection with the deceased.
Display a photo memory board, a memorial table or a memorial DVD of images of your loved one doing what they enjoyed most. Photos, which capture a moment, often spark conversation and bring up forgotten memories.
A balloon release is often a feature of a celebration of life service. However, there are alternatives that may better suit your loved one’s personality including, tossing wildflower seeds into a field, blowing bubbles or lighting luminaries.
Plant a memorial garden. If you have the space, consider planting a tree or flowers that your loved one may have enjoyed, or even a full garden where you can grow some of their favourite foods to share with their favourite people.